What do you get from Mom Shaming?

Jam
10 comments
28 Aug 2017

 

mommy shaming

I didn’t know that one mom can be against or opposite to other mom, what?!?

Since I am new to mummying world I am not aware of this lingo, it’s new to my ear, or just it didn’t happen to me yet or maybe I have already had experience it myself but I am just not aware of it since, I don’t acknowledge criticism especially from strangers, and just let it pass.

So what is mom shaming?  According to Urban dictionary, Mom shaming is criticizing or degrading a mother for her parenting choices because they differ from the choices the shamer would make”.

An example is: This woman is mom-shaming me for not breastfeeding my daughter.

But I thought, once you’re a mom you will support other mom as well and vice versa. Because a parent has only one goal that is to raise a loving child. But I guess this is not the case in the real world! Therefore, we must stop this trend, but how we can do this if we are all entitled to our own opinion?

mom shaming

As a mom I’m happy to share my child’s development, achievements, it is my choice to upload and let everyone see the photos I published. Of course, I will feel bad or hurt once I read something not nice to my child or to what I posted. But why people comment just to express their opposite side, can’t just they leave it to themselves?!?’ I have read these real stories and it is indeed rampant!

As a mom, how do we stop these act for I believe it is our kids who will benefit from it?!

  1. “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all” this will apply, right? Bad opinion? just keep it to yourself! Mom.
  2. No one is perfect! Keep that in mind please, please don’t bother commenting your perfect but imperfect certainty!
  3. Parenthood is a big word for every Mom, see there is no right or wrong way to do it.

Also read: my breastfeeding journey

Moms don’t you think our children are looking up to us. We should be tapping each other’s shoulders since we are doing a great job in nurturing our kids’ wellness. Moms need each other for support, encouragement etc. something that will uplift one’s spirit!

So yeah, NOTHING, Mom Shaming is just a nonsense act you won’t get anything from DOING SO!

 

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About Jam

Jam is currently based in Dubai, she has been working here for the past 10 years. She is also a wife and a mom to Brycen. She hopes to help and inspire other expat moms in Dubai to raise kids whilst still enjoying the beauty of the city.

10 thoughts on “What do you get from Mom Shaming?”

  1. Dominika says:

    As for me I believe that breastfeeding your child should be your choice and it’s OK if you don’t. Thanks for sharing.

    http://dominikagoodness.blogspot.com.ng

  2. AllMyDeals says:

    Interesting take on a sensitive topic

  3. Victoria says:

    There is truly no hard and fast rule to being a mummy, true. The most important thing is for your baby to be happy.

  4. Lacy Ngo says:

    Yes! Let’s support each other, moms!

  5. I’m not a mom yet but from movies I’ve seen how harsh it can be in the mommying world. Good luck to you!

    People will always have something to say. It’s our job to weed out the useless advice and keep what’s important and useful.

    http://thewiselark.karlacruzado.com

  6. Moms are one group that is a microcosm of the society as a whole.
    When a society behaves a certain way, sub-groups do as well.

    Unhappiness and competitiveness drives a lot of what people do.

    I can only offer: Search until you find Your tribe.

  7. I fully agree, before I was a mom, I’d look at other moms, and think to myself, “what is she doing!? I’d never do ________!” Now that I’m a mom, I try to curb those thoughts, because I know that we are all just trying to do the best we can. Every mom is different, and we all have different upbringing, and parenting styles.

  8. Aradhana says:

    I hate judging other moms . In fact this is a topic I am writing about because I strongly feel no one has the right to judge anyone.

  9. Vicki says:

    I can’t stand mum shaming, I’ve done it all differently ways from cloth nappies and disposeable ones breast fed and bottle fed, dairy and non dairy it’s all up to you what works best!
    Overall a brilliant post xx

  10. Our behaviors rub off on our children. We must exhibit the behaviors we expect. Momshaming has no place in that.

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